For most people, Valentine’s Day is about spending quality time with your significant other. Giving and receiving cards, flowers, chocolate and jewelry.Enjoying a special meal, and gazing lovingly into each other's eyes from across the table. But what about those that don’t have a significant other? Should they feel lonely, unloved and unhappy? On this day with constant reminders of what we ‘should’ be doing, it’s hard not to feel that something is missing.
We tend to expect others to make us happy, and when they don’t live up to our expectations, we suffer. Buddha taught that life entails suffering because we look to others to satisfy our desires. Most believe that in achieving those desires we will find happiness. He taught Buddhists to learn to produce positive mental awareness, regardless of our circumstances.
It is about letting go. Taking control of your own happiness. Not comparing your life to that of others. Intending to be happy in whatever we do. Using the power of our imagination to create positive reactions and experiences.
Valentine’s Day gives us the perfect opportunity to change our state of mind and cultivate our own happiness and love. Why not spread love to those around us, improving the moods of others and in turn making yourself feel better. As they say, treat others as you would want to be treated. I believe that you should treat yourself, how you would want others to treat you.
Whatever you are doing this Valentine’s Day, do it with the intention of being happy. Remember, every day is a new opportunity to create your own happiness.
Until my next blog post,